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April 12 2011

The amazing healing power of Buffy. An interesting story at about the power of Buffy in helping one woman deal with her grief over the loss of a friend.

Wow, thanks for this. Her description of her buffy-watch 'routine' with her friend is exactly how I introduced MY college best friend to Buffy. I remember we wanted to finish Season 5 before finals or something, and we had planned an all-night marathon. But I forgot about The Body, and we ended up having to take a 2am walk around campus for an hour to stop crying. Now I'm grateful I didn't have a personal tragedy on top of that. Ms. Masterson is very brave.
A best friend of mine, and fellow Buffy and Joss fan, passed away earlier this year at the age of 27. I've been rewatching Buffy this year along with Nikki's Buffy Rewatch, and it's been a little difficult. I've already wondered what it's going to be like to watch 'The Body' when we get to it. This article had me crying while reading it, but it's also turned out to be a bit cathartic. Thank you for posting.
My dad passed away a couple months ago. Even though he didn't like BtVS at all, I watched 'The Body' to get some good crying out. I couldn't finish the episode, but made it through Anya's speech. While I am by no means "healed," it has definitely helped me processed some things. I can definitely relate to the author of this article. Buffy is a good step towards healing.
Great article.

I watched "The Body" the night my mother died. She died about 9:30 pm, by 12:30 we were all done with the processing, but I knew I would not be able to sleep. I figured, ok, watch it now or watch it never. Oddly enough, it's the only time that I watched that ep when I did not weep. I was all weeped out.
Thanks so much for sharing that. Just lost my mom this year and can't help but weep a bit at how articulate this article is. Everything does not "happen for a reason." To claim that cheapens their lives. Well said.
Lovely story. My father died in February and though he was my monster under the bed, having to go on bereavement leave for two weeks to try and assist my mom is one of the hardest things I've ever done. The grief - how do you deal with someone else's? It's different for everyone and also the one thing in life nobody, not even a Slayer, is ready for. But while I believe that in life some things do happen for a reason, other events are just totally random and as Ms. Masterson writes, ... learning to accept this kind of cruel and unexpected loss (because these events are a part of life).

ETA: I meant to say, Buffy, and The Body episode has helped a lot of people, including me, not just deal with grief, but prepare for it, as well as anyone reasonably can.

[ edited by Tonya J on 2011-04-12 22:27 ]
That was lovely little story at Salon... I wasn't brave enough to watch "The Body" for a long while after me Mum died, though.

Yeah, BtVS got me through the death of my Dad, and "The Body" helped me a few years later in the hospital room as my Mom was dying - not watching it, but remembering it - and a week or so later my brother-in-law died and AtVS almost every night for weeks helped me cope w/ the combined waves of grief that came in the evening when I was no longer all "busy".

I'll never be able to thank Joss and the other creators of Buffy and Angel and Firefly for the support of their stories, which were other-worldly enough to lift me out of pain for a bit - but true enough to keep me in touch with my feelings so I couldn't seal off.

Sorry to hear about your Dad, Tonya - and your Mom, Puddinhead, and you other peeps who've lost folks recently. Everything does happen*, but I believe the reason is that we're human, and nothing more. Which seems plenty, by the way.

* PENNY: But, you know… everything happens.
BILLY: Don't say “for a reason”.
PENNY: No, I'm just saying that everything happens.

-- Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog, Act II
Such great stories, thanks for sharing them.

My first viewing of The Body literally made me sick for the rest of the day. I knew what was going to happen, but I didn't realize it would have such an effect on me. For me it's the scariest and saddest episode of the series. This is a day that each and every one of us will face sooner or later. It's nice to see a real representation of grief instead of just skipping to the funeral.
This is a beautifully written and heartfelt piece. Yes.
This reminds me a little of me and another show. I watch iCarly because the main character's older brother reminds me of me, but I don't have a younger sister, because she died very young. I would have liked to be the side-kick of a bubbly high-strung teenaged web comedian, and work in a creative field, but I'm not creative enough and I'm short one sister. So I'm more or less watching my ideal life.
I got really emotional on the episode where she almost goes to life with her grandfather because he thought her brother was too irresponsible to take care of her.

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